When I say "harem" most of you will think about a bunch of beautiful maidens brought to serve and satisfy a mighty king or emperor. Because, if a man can have fifty women waiting to go to bed with him, why wouldn't he, right? It is heaven But, that word, as well as many others lost it's origin and true meaning in this modern era. The truth is that harems were dangerous places, often more violent and bloody than actual battlefields. Because every beautiful fragile woman in it was there with a single purpose- to rule the world one day.
To be the king's favorite, to give him many sons for successors, and to rule side by side as a queen. But, as there can be many lovers and entertainment girls, there can be only one queen. And this was clear to every one of them, from the first moment of stepping into a palace. Behind the closed doors of women's chambers and far away from soft sheets of ruler's bed, a merciless war raged on. War fought not with swords, but with lies and gossip, betrayal and alliances, patience and endurance, brains and master manipulation. A war with no honor or integrity. Sides were changed as the wind of power blows and no one was safe. Of course, in those conditions back then, and lives of their children often at stake, there was no other choice.
Luckily, those times have long passed but I notice visible trails of that mind set and behavior in every large group of women when they fight for prestige and a "throne" of some kind. And the modeling scene is a perfect example. The deeper I go into it, and the more people I get to know and make contact with, this becomes more obvious. Behind the pretty faces and flashy clothes and makeup, behind sweet posts of gratitude and success, there is a history of deceit and complex tactics. Who do you like and don't like, who are you loyal to, who has your back, who is no longer needed and can be replaced, who will give you more, who will be more influential and help you in your career, who will be the first to do this or that, who is copying whose style... It goes to the point where some models talk trash about others, destroying their chances to work with some brands or designers. It all comes down to who is more popular and influential, and whose word means more. If there is a new pretty girl who starts rising fast, everybody else hates her and sees her as competition. Everyone is competition, in fact. I see it all around me and it terrifies me. Especially because the throne they are fighting for is not even real! Every model is the best, is the queen to someone, same as even the "biggest" models are just not interesting to others. It is a minefield. You have to be careful what you say, who you say it to, and who do you openly support or hate. It all comes back to you one day. I heard it so many times. If yo want to work with this brand you must be friends with this person, but you can't be with this other person. I see models with bad photos and no charisma making huge progress just because there is someone "with power" having their back, and I see mean girls getting their way because they stick together. Unfortunately, it is a world where art and beauty and a pure heart don't matter at all.
You can try to choose not to be a part of this, but the war sucks you in eventually, even of you are not looking for it. You either find your role in it, or you get lost in this wast sea of our ever growing alternative modeling world. Everyone wants to be the queen, the best, the goth princess, the goddess, the ultimate goth model. And things some of them do to get there are just pathetic.
Many times I wish things were more simple and sincere, but luckily for me, I don't want to be a pretty girly princess. I have no interest in wearing the crown.
I prefer carrying a sword.
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Nice to see you in the comment section! Boosts moral a lot :*
You also crushed my harem dreams! I had to google the whole thing and was deeply shocked to what I found! I guess my vision was super romantic and girly, full of women supporting each-other... But boy, there was a lot of murders! Why does nobody make a TV show about it? Screw GoT, this would win everything!
Thank you all for your comments, and many new topics you open with them. I really enjoy your feedback and I am hoping you will see this :)
I am so grateful that you take your time to read my writing and actually think about it, and give your own point of view, because that is the whole point. So please, don't think I don't see or read your comments, and write away :)
Kali, I can tell you know your Suleiman :D It would newer occur to me to use that kind of harem analogy, bravo!
@Demons your post reminded me of Jim Jefferies : How may arguments would be solved easier with a punch :D
Amen sister! Sometimes I really wish we could end our arguments by duking it out with fists and being done with it... you know, like most men do :P
I know it might sound primitive and crude but damn if it isn't more straight forward and cathartic :D
Not that guys can't be petty little bitches, but most of the time arguments like that are a thing of the past the moment the adrenaline leaves their body ;)
Hihihihi, I love the harem description, I never thought about it that way!
As for the rest, use that sword, why waste time and nerves on slime :D I cut out all the toxic people from my life couple of years ago, now I can breathe more clearly :D
Sick blog! I always love reading your writings!
Every scene has toxic people, those fuckers are everywhere! But, they raise fast and fall even faster, just crush and burn, on their own and they don't require any help before they entangle in their own manipulations and sacks of shit :D My advice: Buy delicious popcorn and wait for the fun part :D No need wasting nerves on those people :D
I agree with most of what you said, but I also believe that most wars aren't worth fighting. Negative energy can only hurt ourselves, not the other people. And in life you can always achieve more by collabs and good relationships than with wars. There will always be someone who doesn't like you, why spend precious energy on that. Well, at least I see our life energy as something precious.
Long time ago I have decided to be proverbial Switzerland in the "Great Goth War" :D
That scene is toxic since the 80's, way back when my mum used to be one of those mean goth girls :D
When I decided to have none of it, mind my own business and even prefer not to know what is going on I had to stop throwing house parties from fear of carnage :D
I see myself as neutral little island of doing the best I can and helping the scene the best that I can, and on the weekends : fuck the whole scene, I have chores to run and a cat to snuggle :D
I guess my priorities are a bit elderly :D
Very good text Kali!
Sadly, insanity has prevailed and large amount of people who used to say 'I'm not model, I'm just helping a friend who needed someone for shooting' became 'models' over night.
Thanks to possibility to easily open 'celebrity/public person' page on social networks for free (where people make conclusion based on how cute, or well transformed by make-up someone is on the photo)- these moral dwarfs, hypocrites and sad persons without any real values or achieved goals in life, gain online fans who have no clue what king of people they are supporting.
And as you have mentioned, those pathetic creatures with too much free time have absolutely no shame, no boundaries, and will do whatever it takes to get them where they want and what they want. Turning people against someone with rumors they have created, sabotaging other people's work, stealing ideas, using tragical and mourning life moments of other people to 'triumph' and get attention, you name it...
What they're forgetting is that just one second of website collapse, one person realizing the truth, or someone's prettier offer to their 'loyal' companions is more than enough to burst their balloon and put them back to the Nobody box.
Because, if you declare yourself better than others, and mistreat others for years that's what you get- Karma will have no mercy. Lies never last long.
On the other hand, those who are warriors of light will always have clean hands, honour and sword ;)