We live in an era of interent celebrities and instant success. Anyone can be a model, singer, have a band, create clothes, jewelry, and come from any corner of the world. The power of social media will let you show your work to the world. And that is amazing, because if you're good, you will be noticed, you will get more opportunities and connect with people you never dreamed you could.
But there is a dark aura of depersonalization that comes along. Not for you, as an artist, but for your "fans" or "followers". I don't know which word I hate more. Pages are rated based on how many of the above they have, how many "likes" "shares" "comments" your photos/videos/music get. The curve on your "reach" scale, the nuber of clicks on your website. All of these likes, shares, clicks, and comments are actual PEOPLE.
People who took their time to scroll down through your page, to leave a comment. Real people, who took minutes from their coffee, or a movie they were watching, who stopped reading their emails to hit that famous like button. And I honestly appreciate that. I always try to reply to every comment and message. And it just breaks my heart when somebody says "Oh I can't beleve you are talking to me!". Why wouldn't I? You are the one supporting my work, you are the one who motivates me and makes me feel like I am doing good. The answer I usually get, when I ask why can't you believe I'm talking to you, is "Well I'm just an ordinary man/woman". So am I. And what does it mean ordinary? You are not worth less because you aren't a Facebook celebrity! You might be a doctor, who saves lives every day, or a scientist, or that lovely waitress at someone's favorite coffee shop. I know I met some amazing people through my page, and I cherish that experience. Just think about it, those are people who offer you so much positive energy and love, not asking anything in return. Isn't that just awesome? As an artist who depends very much on your audience, you must stop and ask yourself "What did I do to deserve all this love form complete strangers?". So get to know them, talk to them as much as you can and create a relationship, human relationship. Not one of a superior being and its worshipers.
So no, I will never call them my fans or followers, because they are so much more than that. They are my darlings, my dear people.
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I love your Outlook on life. Thanks for considering me your friend. My circle is so small, it's practically non existent. I cut myself off many years ago. Tired of being stabbed in the back. It's so difficult to trust.
that 'depresonalisation' is bi-product of mass hysteria societies. People are not sharing passion, they are selling flesh wrapped in thick coat of indulgence.
sadly I agreee !
Hello Kali. you are most extraordinairy straightforward and above all; a woman with needs and feelings and....I respect you for that. It is not strange that someone ask you "but, you answer me? " or you talk with me?" . From television and gossipmagazines ,we know that celebs do create distance and especially American celebs can be very bigheaded... That's what we all have learned... It is not so strange; they are invaded and nearly attcked by paparazzi and even in private moments camera's are everywhere... Am I a fan? a "follower?" that word makes me think about stalking...so it is not my favorite word either....A friend? Sometimes it is hard to express what we mean and what we feel.... One thing above all; respect for you as a woman and a privilege that you share pics of your beautiness with the world....
What I consider as "respectless".....
I read a lot of pages on FB all kinds of fetish and offcourse Gothic.... When men write sayings down as "hey you make me ..... or "I think about you in all my fantasies" and a whole long list of unapropriate proposals which I shall not write here.... Personally, I hate that. There is a thin line between " enjoying what your eyes see, or making an "object of lust" from a lady who shows varieties of style in combination with her beautiness... Stay who you are Kali, your eyes are telling what you tell us.... Friendly regards from Ton
That is how I discovered you and met you and now I'm happy to have such an amazing, creative, lovely person and friend in my life :)
Looking forward to the next blog post!
Hugs, dear
Every time I read your post I find myself agreeing. You are growing into a great person (I think we grow every day) and a capable lady. Stay on this path.