When I first started writing this whole blog thing, I never imagined that it would reach so many people and fire so many discussions. The feedback I get every day is amazing and I feel humbled, to say the least. But this is not a blow about how awesome my blogs are Opinions are different, as they should be. Some people find my writing inspirational, some find it controversial, some people just find it fun and refreshing, but there are some that think my words are full of hate and frustrations. And not just mine, I see that it has become perfectly acceptable to call someone frustrated or a "hater" when they express an opinion which is not sunshine lollipops and rainbows. It seems that in this era of political correctness and global behind-kissing, people have forgotten that they are allowed to have a negative opinion on something.
The moment you say something's wrong with society, a specific group of it, some people or some trend, you get labeled as a frustrated and dissatisfied individual with no life, or an immature brat that is envious and petty.
I can't vouch for other people and their reasons to express a negative thought or more, but my inspiration comes from a very different place. I take great pride in being a well educated adult, and on top of that, I consider writing my "holy" calling, and I would never degrade it so that it becomes a tool for venting my dissatisfaction. So, I have a real revelation for everyone- You can be a person who is perfectly satisfied and in peace with yourself and your life and still have a critical opinion on something! Imagine that! Some of the greatest writers in the world were harsh critics of society and its ways, some of the greatest artists in general found inspiration in showing the world how it can be better. You don't have to be a bitter person to be able to see an injustice. Quite contrary, if you are happy with your life you shouldn't be blind and ignorant about the world around you, and people who do wrong. Of course, every person has their own system of values and beliefs, and each one of us will react differently to a certain phenomenon. But if you do find something wrong, you shouldn't be ashamed of saying that. If you get a strong reaction, you are probably right, or as Plato said "No one is hated more than the one who speaks the truth."
As for the envious part goes, it can't be more simple. If I think and say that someone is doing something wrong, or that some people are ignorant, arrogant or unprofessional, why on Earth would I want to be such person? It makes no sense at all! Not to mention, that in my late twenties I should know better than expressing my "envy" by saying "oh look at him/her, they are so stuuupid and uglyyy." Children at preschool can be more sophisticated than that
That's why there are so many blogs. columns and articles out there, so that everyone can find something they enjoy and identify with. We, the authors are different people with different points of view and most of us, myself included, are not trying to convince anyone to think the same as we do. We just offer a perspective, OUR perspective, and we express our creativity and criticism in our own specific way. Sometimes, the world can change if it is pushed in right direction, sometimes only one person will start thinking about something in a way they didn't before, because they read something interesting. And that is my goal. I find no thrill or motivation in discussing shoes and nail polish colors, but that doesn't mean that somebody else shouldn't do it and enjoy it. There is an audience for everything. I criticize, I fight with my best weapon, which is my writing, the things I find wrong and hurtful, or sometimes just silly and unnecessary. Does this mean I am a person with a black hart full of envy and hate? Absolutely not. It means I am a person with brains and guts to say what I mean. And unfortunately or not, this world gives me a lot of material every day. So, if you are like me, or if you feel deep inside that you should stand up against something, loud and clear, feel free to express that. Your words will not be welcomed by many, because online society has gone too far with "safe space from hurtful words" that it has become a crime to say, hey, wait a second, I don't agree with this. There are civil ways to do it, and still be clear about your message. If we all keep quiet, who will make a difference?
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Everybody sitting on Facebook bitching about everybody and secretly gossiping each other from their clique in separate chat groups should be forced to read this over and over, until it sinks in their heads! Thanks for some common sense in this world!
this was great to read Ksenija. Thank you for your effort to share your thoughts with us.. To keep things short and clear; If everybody would think like you, it would be much better in the world. I agree what you write.. I've read it with great interest (as usual)
nighty nite Ton
Very well put together and nicely said! I wouldn't like to be in a skin of someone who is impolite dick around you, but I would to see the face of that person from a safe distance :D
Really dude, now you got not to mess with an intelligent lady? With her brains she could make you dig your own grave, lie there and thank her for it :D
Now seriously: I will put that last question as a background of my phone, to remind me to speak my mind, always!
The thing is: People like to be offended (feel or act offended) it makes them feel important to go on a crusade after any criticism or opinion or person or even a funny Facebook sticker...
Than its like: Smile and wave boys, smile and wave :D